I am by no means an expert, but from all the videos I have seen they recommend you heat the pad/wire and let the solder melt directly on it rather than melting the solder on the iron and letting it flow on to the pad/wire.
EDIT: I re-read post and it may have come across rude, which I didn't mean, I am eternally grateful for everyone’s help including smartalec's
actually, i watched quite a few youtube vids, and Alec sort of made this for my benefit. it actually helped me alot. I was having issues tinning the solder pads, now after some adjustment to my solder tip and technique, i can happily say i have acheived what i needed to acheive, which was join strip to strip easily. Furthermore, yes, heating the pads was the way I changed my technique to.